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It is not a question of how a husband and wife can be equal and alike. But rather, it is a problem of how a couple can be equal and different. — Pierre Mornell
In seeking closeness with loved ones, we have often made the mistake of looking only for similarities. Although common ground helps understanding, we must learn how to get close to others by “borrowing their eyes and ears.” We expand our understanding of others by accepting that what we see, hear, think, and feel will not be exactly what anyone else does. We can deepen our relationships by exchanging our experiences with others.
We don’t have to agree on everything. Simply learning about each other’s differences and letting each other know that we hear and understand will create a feeling of intimacy.
I will be receptive and appreciate differences in those I love.
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A hard beginning makes a good ending. — John Heywood
The First Step of our program was the hardest for many of us. We had to admit that the lives we had gotten used to — our lives — had become unmanageable. We could no longer continue to function in our addiction where we were mere pawns in a game we always lost. But for some of us, that life was the only one we knew, and we had to learn to change it and change it at the root. That was tough, and we knew it would be.
But our program offers a new way of relating to ourselves and others. We don’t have to continue to go it alone. In the old system, the addiction system, we were always alone and that is why we always lost. In recovery, we are part of a group in which we can learn to feel a sense of belonging and shared affection. We no longer feel alone and powerless, but proud members of a new community.
The First Step is hard, yet we do have support and love from others, and our program opens the door to a new life.
I am not afraid to take the First Step because I know it is leading me into new ways of achieving health, sanity, and love.
Daily Meditation Books
- daily meditations for people recovering from sex addiction
- daily meditations for recovering men
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