from Touchstones
It was football time, apple time, harvest time, hunting time, school time. Footsteps quickened. It was exciting to be in transition. It seemed more like the beginning of something than like the end of it. — Paul Gruchow
Some days seem filled with the exciting energy of change. They are like walking on a bridge from one time period to the next. In the fall, our senses are filled with messages of change. Trees tell us transitions are happening. So do football games, and the cool chill in the morning air.
As summer wanes and winter approaches, we may need to grieve for what we leave behind before greeting what comes next. The changes we experience in recovery bring similar responses. We grieve the loss of our old friends, the bottle, the food binge, the romantic thrill, or the excitement of gambling or spending. We are able to grieve our losses because we accept them. We have chosen them. Now we move to the next season of our lives.
As I experience the circle of seasons outside me, I am grateful for the ongoing flow of change within.
From Answers in the Heart
We’re talking roots and wings; love that is magnetic enough to hold, yet magnanimous enough to allow for flight. — Charles R. Swindoll
This is for the day when you realise you can’t stand your spouse or partner one more minute. It’s for the time when everything inside urges a prompt, preferably permanent, retreat.
The statement, “No one ever said a relationship is easy” is an understatement for a sex addict. We must slow down and take care of ourselves during a difficult time with someone we love. We can take inventory of our thoughts and feelings. We can make a contract not to do something impulsive. We can step back and view our problems with humour.
Somewhere inside you is love and a commitment to your partner. This love and commitment are real, no matter how exasperating, bewildering, or undeserving he or she seems to be right now. Say to yourself, “This, too, shall pass,” because it will.
I will ask for balance, humility, patience, and detachment when I am having relationship problems.
Daily Meditation Books
Answers in the Heart - daily meditations for people recovering from sex addiction
Touchstones - daily meditations for recovering men
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